Monday, November 28, 2011

Fathers and daughters

One way you can get me to love a show – even one that might not otherwise have a long list of other things that make it stand out – is to have a really good father-daughter relationship at its core. (I'm not saying I'd still watch a show that was actually terrible just for this relationship, but … well, I'm getting ahead of myself now.) Since I love making lists, and since a friend suggested it, here goes with another one! Hope you're not too entirely bored of my lists by now; if you are, feel free to skip it.



1. Giles & Buffy, Buffy the Vampire Slayer

This one usually occurs to me very quickly when I think of my favorites, so I'll put it first. It didn't take me long at all when I was first watching Buffy to decide that A) Buffy was awesome, B) Giles was my second favorite character, and C) Giles loved Buffy like she was his daughter, and Buffy loved Giles like he was her father. In fact, Giles is a much better father to Buffy than her mostly-absent biological dad. As the show went on, it became more and more clear: if you messed with Buffy, you brought on the wrath of Giles. If you messed with Giles, you brought on the wrath of Buffy. My love for this relationship is why it was extra-painful in that episode in season 3 (“Helpless”) when Giles goes behind Buffy's back for the sake of fulfilling one of the Watcher Council's stupid pointless rituals for the Slayer. Her betrayal and his guilt – oh, man. It was also very hard for me when Giles left the show for a while in season 6, especially after his heartfelt and emotional (and lovely!) song during “Once More With Feeling.” I remember being much relieved when my friend assured me that he wasn't gone for good! There are about a million more moments I could describe, but suffice it to say Rupert Giles is the man, and I love how much he loves his unofficially adopted daughter.

2. Jack & Sydney Bristow, Alias
This is the other one that usually occurs to me right away in this category. If I really think back to when I first started watching Alias, I can faintly recall that I didn't like Jack Bristow much at all when the audience was first introduced to him – and no wonder: he seemed to have almost no use for his bright, intelligent, and impulsive daughter Sydney. I developed a little more sympathy for him when we learned more about how he'd lost his wife and Sydney's mother in tragic circumstances, but then it also became clear that that was about the time that he started shutting young Sydney out of his life. Not surprisingly, this hurt her a great deal. As the show progressed, however, the audience started to see a great deal of evidence that, in Spy Daddy's own words (from “Salvation”, in season 2), “Despite my limited abilities as a father, I love [Sydney] more than I could ever say.” ::sniff:: Yeah, that sound you just heard? That was the sound of my heart shattering into tiny pieces. One of the ways this love was demonstrated was in his efforts, both behind the scenes and with Sydney's knowledge, of protecting his daughter as best he could even in the midst of her extremely dangerous job. Sydney didn't always appreciate these acts, but she did grow to love her dad more and more over the course of the show. Although the show itself went downhill in quality after season three, I think it did the Bristows justice in how it ended. For that, I am glad.

3. Keith & Veronica Mars, Veronica Mars
No list of awesome TV father-daughter relationships would be complete without the Mars duo. After the murder of Veronica's best friend Lily, the town of Neptune turned on its former sheriff, Keith, and his daughter, due to events surrounding the initial investigation. Keith became a private investigator, and his now ostracized high-school-age daughter followed suit. They made a formidable pair when they worked a case together, and each had their own strengths to bring to bear. When they were at odds, it was painful to watch because of how well the two stars portray it. Thankfully, they were never on the outs with each other for too long. I've already mentioned the scene from “Leave It To Beaver” when they find out for sure that Keith is Veronica's biological dad – guh. Just one of many, many sweet and awesome moments between the two of them. Whenever anything terrible happened to Veronica, she knew she could go to her dad for comfort and wisdom, even when it was at least partially her fault. I said in that aforementioned list of favorite TV eps that Keith Mars is probably my favorite TV dad, and I think I was right to say that. (Only the fact that it's been so many years since I watched VM motivates me having listed him at number three here.)

4. Gibbs & Abby, NCIS
I haven't really been invested in this show for several seasons – I think it's been running out of ideas for a while, but it's on CBS and gets huge ratings, so it will probably never die – but I still make a point to watch when I don't have other plans at airtime. The reason? The quality cast. (Ooh, there's another list idea: favorite TV ensemble casts! ::adds item to list of lists to make::) It really is an excellent ensemble, and a big part of that is Mark Harmon and Pauley Perrette as Gibbs and Abby. Gibbs' wife and daughter were murdered many years in his past. Abby lost her parents, too, I believe, although she had a happy upbringing. Anyway, as far back as I can remember on the show, the love between them is obvious, and (IMO) obviously of a father-daughter type. In fact, the whole team is like a family – another thing that I love – but Gibbs and Abby stand out. They protect each other and care for each other, and it's fun to see the normally stoic and guarded Gibbs let down his guard a little sometimes, because of his Abby. Almost nothing during an episode of NCIS is guaranteed to get an “Awww” out of me more than a sweet moment between Gibbs and Abby.

*An honorable mention should go here to Gibbs & Ziva. Ziva has her own major issues with her biological dad, but it didn't take long at all after her introduction to the show for her to develop a surrogate father-daughter relationship with Gibbs. They have had their own share of sweet moments, to be sure.

5. Richard & Alexis Castle, Castle
I'm going to be honest here: other than the initial draw of Nathan Fillion, the first half season of Castle was … far from the best thing I've seen on TV. It took a while for the characters and writers to find their footing, I think. By now it's developed into quite a decent show, with another excellent cast, all of whom I enjoy watching every week. Even before they all gelled, though, the relationship between Castle and his daughter was enough to convince me to keep watching. (And it was worth it!) Molly Quinn does a wonderful job as Castle's smart, headstrong, and well-grounded teenage daughter, who loves her dad even when he's being a huge geek, or being way overprotective. Nathan Fillion, in turn, does quite well (of course!) as a single father who, yes, is sometimes less mature than his daughter, but also usually knows when she just needs a listening ear or a few words of counsel – or a corny joke to lighten the mood. It's clear that Castle treasures his daughter and is extremely proud of her.

6. Cal & Emily Lightman, Lie to Me
The relationship between these two was a highlight to be sure, for this sadly short-lived show. It was similar to Castle and Alexis's in many ways (although Cal could be a lot more annoying than Castle usually is!). Both Emily and Alexis sometimes are smarter than their fathers, at least in interpersonal skills. Both of them have to deal with dads who can be quite overprotective, especially when interacting with their boyfriends – although let me tell you, despite not being as tall as Nathan Fillion, Tim Roth as Cal Lightman came across as a great deal more menacing when he wanted to than Castle has so far! Anyway, it was clear that whatever reckless thing Cal might do to put himself at risk for his job at the Lightman Group, he would do whatever it took to keep Emily safe and out of trouble. Emily, in turn, helped keep her father grounded and was not afraid to call him on his nonsense when necessary, too. I hope to see Hayley McFarland in other excellent roles, if she wants. Also, it makes me happy that she and Tim Roth are good friends IRL.

Other honorable mentions:

-Jed & Zoey Bartlet, The West Wing: One of the main reasons I didn't give these two their own number on the list is that I'm not done watching the series yet, so I don't know how it's going to turn out for them. I do love their relationship as shown so far, though. President Bartlet is a great dad.

-Captain & Dana Scully, The X-Files: We don't get a lot of time with Scully and her dad on the show, but from what we do see, we know she loves her dad dearly. And since he appears from beyond the grave to tell her how much he wishes he had more time with her, it's a pretty safe bet that he loved her just as much. I choose to believe that while he might have been strict as a military father, their relationship was warm and caring – which would make it the best father-child relationship on the show, probably. Heh.

-Pete & Rose Tyler, Doctor Who: I couldn't very well leave these two off the list entirely, since “Father's Day” made me cry when I first saw it and continues to make me tear up whenever I rewatch. “Who am I, love?” “My daddy.” My heart breaks all over again, every time.

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I should also mention that it always makes the joys of watching these fathers & daughters are always highlighted when I get to watch them with my actual dad. He isn't into all of these shows, but I can state with confidence, for instance, that he was not unmoved when we watched "Father's Day" for the first time.

Also, yes, I will be posting a list of favorite father-son relationships at some point soon. That's another pretty much surefire way to get me interested in a show!

Tuesday, November 22, 2011

In memory of Anne McCaffrey, queen of the dragons and titan of sci-fi

As a teenager, I read every single one of your Dragonriders of Pern books - many of them probably more than ten times. I loved the Acorna series, The Ship Who Sang and much of the Talents series, and just last year I read Decision at Doona for the first time.

I loved the worlds you built, the characters you developed, and your wonderful imagination.

You made my life richer with what you wrote, and your talent will be missed. Even if I were a Harper, I don't know how I could possibly distill your brilliance and your legacy into a song in your memory. So I will just keep reading your books, and pass them along to those who haven't read them.

The dragons are massing in the skies of Pern today.

Get up, take heart--go, make a start,
sing out the truth you came for.
Then when you die, your heart may fly
to halls we have no name for.
--All The Weyrs of Pern